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mimesere ([personal profile] mimesere) wrote2008-03-18 11:53 pm

worst daughter ever?

I have made my mom cry. I did this magically with the following exchange:

mom: "I will break every bone in your face."
me: "If you lay a hand on me in violence, I will stop you."
mom: "What?"
me: "If you touch me with the intent to hit me, I will stop you. I won't hit you, but I'm not letting you hit me. The face pushing thing you did just now? No more of that."

Now she is crying in her room like I called her a bad word. Welcome to my world.

in better news, if I can finagle it, I have a place to live that's...elsewhere.
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[identity profile] wemblee.livejournal.com 2008-03-19 06:55 am (UTC)(link)
Jesus Christ. I'm glad you're finding somewhere else to live. And I'm sorry I haven't kept in touch. Gah. Call anytime you need to talk, seriously. I'm so sorry.

[identity profile] missmollyetc.livejournal.com 2008-03-19 07:03 am (UTC)(link)
::hugs:: I'm glad you're finding somewhere else to live.

[identity profile] halfacork.livejournal.com 2008-03-19 07:27 am (UTC)(link)
Oh honey thank goodness!

[clings to you]

You deserve so much better.

[identity profile] thelionforreal.livejournal.com 2008-03-19 07:48 am (UTC)(link)
yes, darling, it is definitely time to leave your insane mother's abode.

*nuzzles*

[identity profile] faith-girl222.livejournal.com 2008-03-19 08:06 am (UTC)(link)
*hugs*

[identity profile] buddleia.livejournal.com 2008-03-19 08:14 am (UTC)(link)
Hmmp, good for you. On both counts.
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[personal profile] ladysorka 2008-03-19 08:22 am (UTC)(link)
That is definitely better news, god.
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[personal profile] ravurian 2008-03-19 08:36 am (UTC)(link)
I... I have had similar experiences myself, except there was a knife and. Yes. Well done for standing up for yourself. She's crying because you made her look at what she was doing, I should think.

If you have options, you should take them. You should be proud of the way you handled this.

[identity profile] annaalamode.livejournal.com 2008-03-19 09:13 am (UTC)(link)
MOVE THERE NOW. I WILL HELP YOU PACK.
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[identity profile] callmesandy.livejournal.com 2008-03-19 12:22 pm (UTC)(link)
WHAT SHE SAID.
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[identity profile] skywardprodigal.livejournal.com 2008-03-19 12:25 pm (UTC)(link)
No.

You're a good person and a good daughter.

If you leave, you'll be fine.

I left and I'm scared, but I'm getting help and I'll be fine. But I stood up for myself and my family carried on like I had done unspeakable evil, but I'm not here for that sort of nonsense.

Neither are you.

Family is supposed to protect and shelter you and give you what you need to survive. Full stop. Mine didn't do that. So I left.

[identity profile] fox1013.livejournal.com 2008-03-19 12:47 pm (UTC)(link)
I love you.
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[identity profile] coffeeandink.livejournal.com 2008-03-19 01:10 pm (UTC)(link)
::Hugs::

Good! If there's anything I can do to help from here, let me know.
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[identity profile] lattara.livejournal.com 2008-03-19 01:10 pm (UTC)(link)
Good. Go you!

[identity profile] cidercupcakes.livejournal.com 2008-03-19 01:30 pm (UTC)(link)
MOVING OUT YAY! \o/ *crosses fingers*

And, dude. DUDE. That was so brave and awesome of you. *loves*

[identity profile] arallara.livejournal.com 2008-03-19 02:31 pm (UTC)(link)
Oh, man. My fingers are crossed and I'm hoping so hard that it works out for you to move into a different place. It sounds like it is beyond time for that, and I'm sending so many good thoughts for you. Hang in there, sweetie.

[identity profile] sweetvalleyslut.livejournal.com 2008-03-19 02:51 pm (UTC)(link)
Really glad to hear that. Good luck!

[identity profile] luluminion.livejournal.com 2008-03-19 03:02 pm (UTC)(link)
You are right and strong and supported and hoped for and soon to be safer.

[identity profile] j-crew-guy.livejournal.com 2008-03-19 03:32 pm (UTC)(link)
OH MY GOD. So much joy at your moving out. *HUGS*

[identity profile] shrift.livejournal.com 2008-03-19 03:33 pm (UTC)(link)
GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT. Um, please? For us?

[identity profile] strangemuses.livejournal.com 2008-03-19 04:08 pm (UTC)(link)
Good grief. Time to move. You're not a bad daughter but you certainly are in a bad mother-daughter relationship. You will never be able to fix her but you can take steps to make your own life better.

[identity profile] cesario.livejournal.com 2008-03-19 04:26 pm (UTC)(link)
Oh, I have had that conversation before. Except without the moving out bit at the end. DO THAT. NOW. DO YOU NEED BOXES, I HAVE BOXES.

[identity profile] laurashapiro.livejournal.com 2008-03-19 04:37 pm (UTC)(link)
OMG, you're moving out? ::hyperventilates in anticipatory joy::

And no, of course you're not a bad daughter -- much less the worst daughter ever. Abuse is wrong, and she's the one dishing it out. But I know you know that.

Let me know if there's any way I can help you get out of there.

::massive hugs::

[identity profile] vampyreranger.livejournal.com 2008-03-19 07:43 pm (UTC)(link)
*hugs* You go girl.
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[personal profile] anonymous_sibyl 2008-03-19 09:13 pm (UTC)(link)
Dude! Oh my god, rockstar. Oh, Sheila, honey, what you said and did was awesome and amazing and I am so damn proud of you I could burst.

Screw her. You stood up for yourself and you did it in such an awesome way.

*squishes you with joy*

[identity profile] claire.livejournal.com 2008-03-19 11:32 pm (UTC)(link)
I hope you don't feel guilty, bitch deserves to cry.
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[identity profile] zvi-likes-tv.livejournal.com 2008-03-20 01:11 am (UTC)(link)
*hugs* I am glad you are leaving CrazyTown.
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[personal profile] celli 2008-03-20 01:58 am (UTC)(link)
*hugs*
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[personal profile] minim_calibre 2008-03-20 05:33 am (UTC)(link)
You're so far from the worst daughter ever.

I hope like hell you can get out soon.

[identity profile] mimesere.livejournal.com 2008-03-20 05:55 am (UTC)(link)
The problem was never really finding somewhere else to live but finding someway else to take care of my mom. Unfortunately, it seems like that is...a difficulty without a current solution.

[identity profile] mimesere.livejournal.com 2008-03-20 05:56 am (UTC)(link)
*hugs back* It is...sadly more complicated than just finding someplace else to live. I wish it weren't, though.

[identity profile] mimesere.livejournal.com 2008-03-20 05:58 am (UTC)(link)
*snuggle* Sadly, no end in sight yet. I am running into the problem of familial duty. Stupid duty.

[identity profile] mimesere.livejournal.com 2008-03-20 06:01 am (UTC)(link)
*clings* right now, the happy spot in my life is knowing I will have a you in a few weeks.

[identity profile] mimesere.livejournal.com 2008-03-20 06:01 am (UTC)(link)
*hugs back*

[identity profile] mimesere.livejournal.com 2008-03-20 06:01 am (UTC)(link)
*curls up with you*

[identity profile] mimesere.livejournal.com 2008-03-20 06:02 am (UTC)(link)
It is sadly better news that I can't take advantage of. My life, so hard.

[identity profile] mimesere.livejournal.com 2008-03-20 06:03 am (UTC)(link)
My options are limited in a lot of ways by needing someone here to help and me being the only viable candidate. On the plus side, it's usually not awful. On the minus side, sometimes it is.

At least I think I have made it clear that the physical stuff is just not going to fly.

[identity profile] halfacork.livejournal.com 2008-03-20 06:05 am (UTC)(link)

I just replied to the other post.

Not as eloquently as I wish I could but I replied.

That worried thing? So happening.

[identity profile] mimesere.livejournal.com 2008-03-20 06:07 am (UTC)(link)
*hugs you a lot* I really, really, really wish I could.

[identity profile] thelionforreal.livejournal.com 2008-03-20 06:20 am (UTC)(link)
so soon. so very, very soon.

(i just won't ever leave, okay.)

[identity profile] mimesere.livejournal.com 2008-03-21 02:33 am (UTC)(link)
My hopes remain up for soon, but it's not going to be soon like *now*, which is sad.

[identity profile] mimesere.livejournal.com 2008-03-21 02:33 am (UTC)(link)
*hugs back*

[identity profile] mimesere.livejournal.com 2008-03-21 02:34 am (UTC)(link)
Hopefully soon, just not now. *hugs back*

[identity profile] mimesere.livejournal.com 2008-03-21 02:34 am (UTC)(link)
I find it (bitterly) amusing more than anything else.

[identity profile] mimesere.livejournal.com 2008-03-21 02:37 am (UTC)(link)
It's sadly not the first time we've had that little fight. It is, however, the first time it's made her cry.