the story so far
Oct. 2nd, 2006 08:26 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
mimesereMy sister has been discharged from the hospital and is at home now. She is all set up in our downstairs living room with the hospital bed they sent over and the oxygen machine and just piles and piles of medication and needles and our kitchen is filled with um, bags of some kind of IV infusion. So far, I have learned to take my sister on and off the IV, change the infusion, take blood sugar tests, and administer shots of I-don't-know-what. all of this is fine, really, truly it is. It's not particularly difficult and I'm relatively good with it, but it's stressful as all hell and it gets worse when, as happened this particular weekend, I have three people -- including my sister -- screaming at me that I am doing it wrong and don't I understand that if air gets inside the tube she's gonna die and I just want her to die and get away, don't touch, they don't trust me to do it correctly, why didn't I just wait for the fucking nurse to come. To which I responded that it was *fine*, they could do the shots and the bag prep and the IV hookups and everything because *clearly* I could not be trusted to follow simple instructions and oh, also, THEY TOLD ME to change the bag and that's the only reason I did it. Then the nurse did come (too late for the disconnect) and said that my other sister had done a good job disconnecting the bag. No one apologized or said anything.
I am taking a brief leave from work, I think, with the possibility of going to part-time until whatever happens, um, happens. There's no one else to do all the things that need doing and my mom can't and my brother who finally came back from Iran and my sister who is going through the nasty divorce and my other sister who has huge problems of her own can't be here all or most of the time and I'm just...stuck.
I am taking a brief leave from work, I think, with the possibility of going to part-time until whatever happens, um, happens. There's no one else to do all the things that need doing and my mom can't and my brother who finally came back from Iran and my sister who is going through the nasty divorce and my other sister who has huge problems of her own can't be here all or most of the time and I'm just...stuck.
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Date: 2006-10-02 03:34 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2006-10-02 03:37 pm (UTC)(no subject)
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Date: 2006-10-02 03:35 pm (UTC)It must be infuriating to be so willing and able to help in a crisis and have everyone be so dismissive of you. ):
Is there anything I can do for you?
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Date: 2006-10-02 03:40 pm (UTC)And hugs are always good :) *cuddle*
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Date: 2006-10-02 03:40 pm (UTC)*virtual chocolates*
*more hugs*
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Date: 2006-10-03 06:48 am (UTC)(no subject)
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Date: 2006-10-02 03:53 pm (UTC)*hugs you*
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Date: 2006-10-03 06:52 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2006-10-02 03:55 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2006-10-03 06:52 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2006-10-02 03:58 pm (UTC)These situations are so difficult and I totally feel for you. *hugs*
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Date: 2006-10-06 04:49 pm (UTC)And also, *hugs*
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Date: 2006-10-06 07:09 pm (UTC)(no subject)
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Date: 2006-10-02 05:31 pm (UTC)I'm sorry I haven't said it before but I have been following what's happening with your family I just don't know what to say in situations like these most times.
*hugs*
Take care of yourself through this. Your problems are not any less important than anyone else's
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Date: 2006-10-06 05:03 pm (UTC)*hugs*
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Date: 2006-10-02 05:36 pm (UTC)*hugs if you want them*
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Date: 2006-10-06 05:16 pm (UTC)*cuddle*
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Date: 2006-10-02 05:46 pm (UTC)*steals you*
*wraps you up on the sofa and makes you tea*
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Date: 2006-10-07 02:21 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2006-10-02 07:23 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2006-10-07 02:23 am (UTC)And virtual hugs are awesome.
*hugs*
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Date: 2006-10-02 10:47 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2006-10-07 02:23 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2006-10-02 10:52 pm (UTC)2. Keep work as a part time, if that works, because it's a good reason to get out of the house.
3. I'm sorry. Breathe deep, and try to hold on. It sucks that they don't appreciate you. It sucks that there is fighting. It just does.
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Date: 2006-10-07 02:25 am (UTC)And things have to get better in some way or another.
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Date: 2006-10-02 10:54 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2006-10-04 04:14 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2006-10-02 11:48 pm (UTC)She doesn't qualify for home hospice? Or are they all NO NO NO still? In any case, I'm so sorry things are crazy. And you know, Sunday. Seriously. I get you can't leave the house, but we could watch things and you wouldn't be alone with your family. Or running errands y'all need run. All that stuff.
The tubes and wires don't freak me out at all.
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Date: 2006-10-07 02:26 am (UTC)And I would happily hang with you Sunday, but I think I am compiling paperwork for my soon-to-be divorced sister.
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Date: 2006-10-07 02:38 am (UTC)And as a reaction to people who don't want to send their family members etc SOMEWHERE.
And hey, try to remember to have some time to take care of yourself too, not all the rest of your family.
HUGS
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Date: 2006-10-03 01:50 am (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2006-10-07 02:29 am (UTC)Who knows, maybe it will bring us all together.
I have no idea how you're getting through this
Date: 2006-10-03 02:53 am (UTC)I'm so sorry that everything is pitch fucking black and awful for you right now; your poor sister, your poor family, and aw, baby, you.
If I lived in town, I'd at least be able to bring you a pizza or take you for a drive somewhere, but I'm sure you've got people nearby who would be glad to give you a shoulder to cry on-- or punch, if that's what you need.
Take care of yourself as best you can.
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Date: 2006-10-04 04:14 pm (UTC)(no subject)
Date: 2006-10-08 08:25 am (UTC)Just *hugs*